The Holy Spirit and I Are Not On Speaking Terms…

No joke! My girlfriend and I were speaking and I was sharing about doing something the Holy Spirit instructed and she responded, “The Holy Spirit and I are not on speaking terms right now.” I hollered! If you knew her, the statement would not come as a surprise (she says the funniest things), but what made it even more hysterical was that I could literally count how often I too feel like blocking the Holy Spirit from my mind and even more so, my actions. John 16:13 affirms, “Howbeit when He, the Spirit of truth, is come, He will guide you into all truth: for He shall not speak of Himself; but whatsoever He shall hear, that shall He speak: and He will shew you things to come.” Goodness! And it is truth that I don’t always desire to hear. If the Holy Spirit only speaks what is heard, then my only response is to obey, and if I choose not to, one can end up in a situationship whereby one states, “The Holy Spirit and I are not on speaking terms.” How is it that even when we refuse to engage, the Holy Spirit refuses to take its ball and go home? In fact, it perhaps ramps up its volume, and begins speaking to us in the most deliberate ways – through other people, through creation, through books, songs, sermons and even those whom we may disagree or dislike. So, even when we act out and consider ourselves on block, the Comforter continues to remain connected to us, despite us. Woosah…

What makes one withdraw communication? Anger, hurt, disappointment, fear and stubbornness each serve as qualifiers. As we season in the Lord, we can’t help but seek God in all that we do, and when God speaks to us or shows us what to do through the Holy Spirit and we are not in agreement, well that results in one’s tendency to ignore. And yet, He still loves us, doesn’t leave us, continues a hedge of protection around us, to harbor and incubate our silence. Even with adult children, who lead busy lives, as a parent, I am a little in my feelings when I’ve not heard from them. Yet, how might our Heavenly Father feel when I replicate the same behavior?

When I followed the Holy Spirit’s prompting to call a friend, I learned that she was navigating several concerns and needed prayer and support. On another occasion, going a different way to work suggested by the Holy Spirit allowed me to avoid an accident. Choosing to keep my mouth closed at the Holy Spirit’s request enabled me to learn the truth as opposed to what my imagination conjured. Choosing an alternative website in my job search by the Holy Spirit’s direction resulted in a new career opportunity. In each case, I’ve been appreciative of hearing the Holy Spirit and more importantly, following the directives. However in contrast, the Holy Spirit has also instructed things that I am not ready to assume, and correction and rebuke. I’m not proud of those moments, but the first step toward healing is admittance. Thank God for grace in the moments when we act against the lover of our soul and the mere fact that He doesn’t keep score. No matter how bad it gets, let’s continue to keep the Holy Spirit on the active contact list. It’s for our good. And we don’t wish to consider the collateral damage if the Holy Spirit elects not to be on speaking terms with us.


  1. Clovice -  July 22, 2019 - 7:59 am 285


    • Stephanie -  July 22, 2019 - 3:26 pm 286

      I love it!

  2. Teresa McNair -  July 22, 2019 - 4:29 pm 287

    This was very much needed. Encouraging and correcting. Oh, how I constantly need to take heed to the Holy Spirit. I have to do better…❤️

    • Stephanie -  July 29, 2019 - 5:23 am 288

      Amen Teresa! May God grant us mercy to hear and obey! Thank you for reading!


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