Familiarity Breeds Contempt

Often when we hear the statement, “Familiarity breeds contempt,” we assume that a relationship of some sort has been tainted.  For example, a couple who spends time together becomes acquainted with each other’s flaws and faults, and subsequently, there is a loss of respect.  I’m not in relationship with the enemy, but I’ve witnessed his shenanigans over the years and I’ve got no love for him.  He is a liar, a deceiver and the truth ain’t in him! So just so we’re clear, and in case he needed to hear it or read it again, let me reiterate that in fact I fully understand the philosophy that undergirds “familiarity breeds contempt,” and I’m putting the enemy on notice yet again that he has no place in anything that God has ordained in my life nor that of my family.

I know him.  We’ve not been in relationship, but perhaps he is jealous of the one I’ve had with another.  After all, this other person gives me love unconditionally (Romans 5:8).  He grants me new mercy with each new day (Lamentations 3:23).   He encourages me to walk with him (Colossians 2:6).  He prepares a way of escape for me (I Corinthians 10:13).  He takes care of me with thoughtfulness (Genesis 28:15).  He welcomes me into his presence (Jeremiah 33:3).  He knows how consumed the enemy is with in trying to lure me away (Luke 22:31), but even if I succumb to the enemy’s trappings even briefly, the one I’m in relationship with brings me back into his fold (Luke 15:5).

So here’s the thing, the enemy is indeed busy, but his trickery is recyclable and it lacks innovation .  Yet the love of God is always every evolving, consuming and cyclical and new every morning.  I sit in awe at how creative God is with his blessings over my life and that of my family.  When the blessings of God are released in the natural, we can always expect the enemy to maneuver mess.  This week, our daughter was made a manager on her job, we celebrated and praised God for her expansion and exposure; and soon thereafter the enemy lodged an attack directed at her.  God gave a heads up.  In between the blessing and the acursed thing, the holy spirit led me to pray and lift up the daughters of every woman within our dance ministry.  I was obedient, but more importantly grateful that God provided the impetus, because three days later, I witnessed the hand of protection over our daughter’s life like never before! I know without a shadow of doubt that the Lord is real! I’m familiar with him, but I’ve got not a shred of contempt.  The enemy on the other hand can go kick rocks and begin to settle into the demise that is sure to come and put an end to his horror.  In fact, he may assume the same mantra as me.  I am putting my honor, my intent, my everything on my Lord and Savior Jesus the Christ.  The enemy may as well get familiar with my “mo” and develop all the contempt his evilness can stand.  I want him to know that whatever God allows him to enact, that my expectations in Christ will not be lowered.  Tragedy is difficult, and I’m not minimizing our human response – but I shall carry my pain, my questions, my concern, my disbelief and my confusion to the one that has always cared for me – not the one who pretends to know me all while planning my demise.  I’ve said it before, I’m not on his team and his recruitment tactics won’t work; neither am I a free agent.  I was bought with a price at Calvary – and all the I am or ever hope to become is rooted in Christ.



  1. WNBrooks -  July 25, 2016 - 9:23 am 194

    A resounding amen!

    • Stephanie -  July 25, 2016 - 10:00 am 195

      Love it!


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